The logical brain likes sequential things. It says, "I plan to do this first, then go to that, and finally end up with this other thing."
We have thought processes that constantly plan things and look into the future. It's almost like we get a kick out of pretending to predict how things will be.
To me, this takes away our freedom.
Let me tell you about an experience I had today...
An Uncertain Mind Is A Weak Mind
Usually, my day starts quietly. I wake up & go through the morning routine that gets me set up for a great day.
Today was not a typical day. Instead of getting out of bed like usual, I found myself on my IPad scrolling through YouTube.
I spent 8 hrs straight on YouTube.
YouTube is like digital crack. I don't know how else to say it. If there was an Olympic competition for watching random stuff on the internet, I think I'd have a good chance of competing for a medal.
I had a plan for the way I wanted my day to go, but somehow I just didn't feel like doing anything. A few other things were on my mind. (work & life related)
I didn't want to work on anything. I didn't want to create. I felt tired.
It felt like I was a completely different person. I didn't want to leave my bed. I didn't want to leave my house, and I didn't want to do anything.
My energy was SO low.
At the back of my mind, I had the thought
"Please, can someone save me!!"
I felt trapped in some weird mental matrix of behaviour & conditioning that felt comfortable and wrong simultaneously.
A level of anxiety existing below the surface of my conscious awareness – hiding without being too noticeable.
A feeling of uncertainty about potential future situations that I need to plan for. The need to be safe and protected.
All of that mental stuff just stuffed in there – cluttered all over the place – with no organization, no shelves, no order in the chaos.
We're stuck in the matrix.
I never thought I'd be that guy, but it's time to acknowledge the modern landscape we find ourselves in.
Unhelpful information & food diet.
What the actual fuck is going on? How is it even possible that someone can wake up & go 8-10 hours doing nothing but consume and order takeout? How did we, collectively, fucking allow that? It makes no sense.
Not taking 100% responsibility for my reaction to perceived future events causes me to feel anxiety -> which leads to procrastination + overconsumption.
Instead of working with the specific part of my psyche concerned about these things, I resorted to an old pattern of behaviour that my subconscious was conditioned to repeat. When my subconscious felt a certain way, it reacted in a certain way.
It's a simple stimulus & response system. Does something happen that matches the stored mental pattern? If so, react with X, Y, and Z behaviours that have worked in the past.
The actual response isn't the BEST possible response. It's just a response that WORKED for us in the past – it doesn't mean it's good for us.
How to change?
By installing & integrating the belief that it's safe for the subconscious mind to change its reactions.
The actual circumstance doesn't matter at all. Maybe you're worried about a new project, and your subconscious reacts by procrastinating. Is this new project the problem? Hell no.
Is your reaction the real culprit here? Yes.
Ignore the future at all scales.
Don't think 5 years ahead because it's not true. Don't even think 5 minutes ahead.
None of the mental projection BS is true. It's just your subconscious trying to predict & control the universe. BUT IT JUST CAN'T DO THAT. We're all being blown around by the winds of fate, and we don't have ANY control over where we're blown.
Forget about what you want to do tomorrow. Worry about that when tomorrow comes. Just drop it. Bring yourself back to what you're immediately doing, and do that. Do it with complete involvement.
It's useless to be concerned about imaginary scenarios so long as you realize that the concern is a simple defence mechanism. It's a response. Who is there to defend anyways?
CHANGE THE DAMN RESPONSE
Rehearse a new response.
Imagine a scenario you'd typically have a bad response to, then change the response to something better.
Maybe you get anxious if you find yourself in conflict. Take some time to rehearse what a healthy response would be. Maybe it's ten deep breaths & a lap around the block.
Decide what the new response is & just rehearse it 5-10 times over. Like right now. Bring up the situation, imagine yourself doing the different response/actually do it, and then celebrate afterwards.
Celebration releases dopamine which captures the behaviour & helps make it a habit.
Install a new belief.
Our subconscious is our inner child.
It's the younger version of us. It has all of our life experiences stored. It decides what to do before our conscious mind even realizes it.
It's a young child running the most sophisticated biological machinery to ever fucking exist.
We've lost that connection to them. To change a belief, we, as the conscious mind, must work with the child. We ask for consent. We persuade it to buy into our vision.
We've got to be friends with it. Imagine a younger version of you that represents your subconscious mind. Start talking to it. Pat them on the head. Get down low, at eye level, and tell it:
- I love you
- I am sorry
- Please forgive me
- Thank you
Feel every damn word you say to it. We've neglected the poor thing so badly. The least we can do is say sorry.
We must make amends with our inner world before expecting the outer world to change.
Every time the feeling of concern arises, understand that your inner child has gotten to it first. The only reason why you feel it is because of your inner subconscious child.
Ignore the emotion. It's not important. Acknowledge the CHILD GOD DAMNIT!
See why the child is bringing it up. Take 100% RESPONSIBILITY. Acknowledge the response & remind the child of your VISION.
Learn from the child but also don't forget to TEACH it.
The universe is declarative.
Forget about the future.
Just hold your belief that you can happen.
Don't tell the universe how. It'll figure it out.
All you got to do is focus on it. Just pick & focus. That's it.
Small things will start to happen. You'll be guided. The universe is vastly INTERCONNECTED. Thoughts ARE things. Emotions ARE fields. You ARE powerful. Don't fuck it up for yourself.
Forget about the future situation. It's not important. Bring full attention to the inner child that is looking for advice & guidance on it. Learn from it, teach, and grow together.
Clean up all the unhelpful reactions you have. Be free, man. Don't let yourself get caught up in all the garbage. It's not worth it. The worry is not worth it. It doesn't help anyone.
The universe isn't keeping score. It's just faithfully humming along. It's up to us, as the conscious mind, to know where to place our attention, to know when & where direction is needed & when it's not needed.
Repair the relationship with the little one on the inside. Find synchrony. Heal & allow both the subconscious & conscious mind to start moving in the same direction instead of fighting with each other.
Heal that bond.