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How To Love!

How To Love!

“The minute I heard my first love story,
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.
They’re in each other all along.”


Alyssa, Eli, and Drew. My 3 dearest readers. I hope you guys love! And love hard!

Love is Cool...

It's natural!

We like it!

But many find themselves stuck in their relationships.

Not only with others, but with themselves.

Don't worry – the rest of this isn't relationship advice. 

Love is without qualification.

Have you ever mistakenly asked your partner why they love you?

This question kills love.

It rips it out and reduces it down to worldly objects and qualities.

They reply:

"Oh! I love your smile"

"I love how you care"

"I love how you love me!"

"I love the way you look. That BUNDA tho!"

What if those things went away?

What if you stopped looking the way you once did?

What if you lose your smile?

What if you stop caring?

What if the BUNDA was less phat?

Would that mean their love would stop?

Yes or no?

There Can Be No Conditions!

Anytime you seek to qualify your love with some quality or attribute, you make your love conditional.

And we all know how devastating that can be.

A terms and conditions document attached to love are bound to fail. The mere fact that the document exists necessitates it.

True love is without conditions. It's unconditional.

Unconditional Love Starts Inside U!

Unconditional love cannot be found outside of yourself. You're not going to see it in some tree tucked away in a secret cave...

it's not here.

It's found right here. Where you are.

How do I know?

Think about 1 simple fact. The fact of you being aware at all. The fact that you exist (period).

How is that not the greatest act of love? What can get more poetic than the fact that your body just WORKS? And that you are AWARE!

There is nothing complicated here.

Unconditional love was ALWAYS there. We just severely overlooked it. And instead looked to the outside world to find it.

We said to ourselves: "This moment isn't enough. There must be more." but I am sure we've realized that this is a monumentally STUPID thing to believe.


The Outside World Is In Total Flux!

Our circumstances are never fixed. Things will change!

So why invest your energy in something that won't exist tomorrow???

It makes no sense.

But what doesn't change?

Yourself. Not your personality or mind. But the fundamental existence that you are.

That thing is stable. No change there.

You are fundamentally the same existence that was there when you were 5 years old, and that same existence will exist when you're 90 years.

And that thing is full of love.

We're Two Flowers On The Same Branch

Think of love this way.

We're simply two flowers on the same branch.

2 waves in the same ocean.

Apparently 2 but actually 1.

That, to me, is love.

In remembrance that we're sharing an experience, we can be open! We're all part of 1 cosmic body.

My Lover and I Are One.

That's why it's impossible to be lonely once this fact is understood.

What distance actually exists between me and my love if we share the same being?


They might not be in front of you but that's ok. Just rest in the fact that they could never be apart from you.

my lover and I are one!


Love without:

  • Conditions
  • Qualifications
  • Expectations
  • Fear

And you'll lead a beautifully deep life.

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi

with love,

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